What do you see in your social feed: countless diet-fad ads? Or ‘gurus’ offering you help you achieve a breakthrough? Likely both, because that’s the season we’re in. What season? The season for goals and good intentions. The season for gurus to come out and make your life great again.
We want the year to be great. We have goals. And ‘gurus’ know this, so they release their books and courses.
We want to get in shape. We’re looking for a new job. We need better habits, more focus, more clients, more this, less that. You get the pattern.
There’s a book for that. Or a course. Just check with your favorite guru. Now what?
What’s Keeping You From The Change You Want?
You already knew what needed to change before the year started. You saw it coming. The avalanche that hit you (like those 20 extra pounds) didn’t out of nowhere. What kept you waiting and watching? See, that’s one question that will lead you to think differently.
What Gurus Know
Your average guru has found that the secret sauce to breakthrough isn’t all that big of a secret.
At the core of many of the “breakthrough books” are usually a handful of principles. The discoveries were made by one decision: your very own. Which one?
Depends. The decision to stop being passive. The decision to stop being self-sabotaging. The decision to own it. The decision to act in small ways every day. In all cases, the decision is driven by what already resides within you: knowledge about yourself. You just haven’t tapped into yourself yet.
Read the stories of those people you follow and who’s books you read. They all needed a breakthrough. They were fed up, broke or exhausted. Something needed to change. They recognized that the only decision they can control is their own.
That alone didn’t bring the breakthrough, but it started it. Taking ownership of our decisions starts controllable change. We control our own decisions. That’s the beautiful power we have. We don’t embrace the power of choice enough.
We can’t control everything. We knew that already, that’s why we engage wasteful habits like wishful thinking or dwelling in our negative past. We can’t control what happens to us, but we are completely in charge of our choice how to respond.
What Does Your Inner Guru Say?
You can buy another set of books if you want, but I’m here to tell you that those won’t give you the breakthrough. Buying or reading doesn’t change anything. You need to think differently to act differently.
How do you change then?
We need to spend more time with ourselves on a cognitive level. Most people practice active absenteeism or mindlessness in their spare time.
BYOG (Be Your Own Guru)
Here is my simple starter list to get the breakthrough other ‘gurus’ like you have achieved before you:
- Commit to yourself. Write it down and sign it. Don’t skip this step. We are more likely to achieve goals that are written down.
- Plan mindfulness and practice it. Get a habit journal or a simple blank journal and begin the powerful practice of bulletjournaling.
- Act on your insights.
- Embrace the little things. Small progress is still progress. A drip in the bucket still fills it up over time.
- Keep moving. You will have days where you mess up or forget. Get back up and keep marching.
- Stop overthinking. Write down questions instead of spinning in endless circles of negativity. Why are you feeling this way? What can you do about it? What are you not seeing? What options do you have? What’s another way to look at this? Who could help? What do you learn about yourself?
Let your guru glow.